Help Yourself: Tips on How to Handle Rejection

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Rejection in any form is naturally frustrating to everyone. In everyday of your life, there is a possibility for you to be rejected. It may be a rejection from friends, from love interests, from job opportunities, and others. Rejection is undeniably, a part of everyone’s journey. However, no matter how big or small the rejection may be, you must not be living in frustration forever. Rejection must be overcome. Here are some helpful tips on how to handle rejection.

  • Don’t be pathetic. Always bear in mind that rejection is one of the spices of everyone’s life. This means that rejection may happen to everyone. So, never ever think that you are the only unfortunate person who was rejected. Somebody else has experienced rejection and survived.
  • Be honest to yourself! Of course you know that you have done your best and yet you still got rejected. Always remember that there is always room for improvement in everyone. Talk to yourself and discover the points that you need to improve. Only you can tell what the limits of your capabilities are. And only you can tell how much improvement can you cater. It is important to accept the reason of the person who rejected you. Accept the truth that no matter how good you are, there can still be something lacking from you.
  • Be optimistic! Everything happens for a reason. When one door closes before you, always remember there is always a backdoor. A rejection can be a blessing in disguise. For instance, when you encounter a rejection from a romantic relationship, just bear in mind that you always deserve someone better. If you got rejected from a job application, bear in mind that along the way out, there are millions of better opportunities waiting for you.
  • Appreciate yourself. If you got rejected, never fall into the trap of thinking that you are useless and weak. You have something special in you that they were not able to see that why they rejected you. Those people, who fail to see the goodness in you, don’t deserve you either. Never forget that you are special and unique in your own way.
  • Give yourself another chance. Always remember that things don’t happen exactly the same way in another time. Frustrations from rejection should not keep you from trying again. Don’t let one failure cripple your dreams and desires. Trying again a little harder this time is surely worth it.
  • Pour your heart out just once. It is normal for you to fell depressed and sad when you got rejected. Releasing your emotions will help than keeping them inside your heart. If you want to cry then cry. If you want to shout then shout! Release your anger and frustrations so that there can be more room for new hopes in your heart.
  • Move on! Forgetting the rejection will help you to forget about how bad you felt about it. To facilitate your “moving on”, engaged in activities that will help you regain your confidence and improve your over- all personality.

Rejection is a part of life. However, don’t let rejection stop you from reaching your dreams and attaining happiness and contentment.

Win despite the Loss: Dealing with Loss

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Losing someone special and very important to you is one of the saddest and challenging parts of life. You may feel that you will never be happy again; that everything will just fall apart. But losing someone must not stop you from living your life. The sad incident of losing a loved one for example must not bury you in grief, guilt, and anger through out you life. Here are some helpful tips on how to deal with loss.

  • Accept it. You may be afraid of the fact that you have lost someone that you tend to pretend that nothing like that happened. You tend to pretend that you have actually lost someone. Somebody can do this by avoiding conversations regarding the loss, and even avoiding the things that would make you believe that something has happened. Doing this is not really helping you. What you need to do is to accept the truth. Going away from it is actually showing how weak you really are. If you are really brave, you should face and accept the loss. It is truly sad and painful but it is better than fooling yourself like nothing happened.
  • Feel the loss. Losing someone you love is of course painful. However, you have no better choice than to feel the pain. It is not good to run away from it and to pretend you are not hurt. If the pain makes you cry then that’s good. Crying is one outlet of the pain. If the loss makes you angry and you want to shout so loud as if you are the only one in the world then is free to shout. It is a lot better than locking yourself in your room and keeping your emotions all to yourself.
  • Talk to your friends. In good and bad days, you are very lucky to have good friends beside you who are willing to listen to your sentiments. Don’t wastes the blessing of having good people around you. Always bear in mind that talking to them would really help in the healing process. If you don’t want them to talk about the loss, then ask them to listen to you. Tell them everything you feel. It is better to have someone to talk to in times of heavy days.
  • Avoid People Who don’t Understand you. There are people who are not really concerned about you. They may have the intention of talking to you but not to make you fell good but only to have something to speak about you. You don’t need this kind of people. There may be people in your workplace that you think has nothing good to say to you. What you need to do is to stay away from them.
  • Think of Happy Thoughts. As what Peter Pan said, Think of happy thoughts and you will fly. Although it will be very difficult to think of happy thoughts at first, but it would help you instead of think about the regrets that you have about the loss. Distract yourself of things that will make you happy.

It is truly hard to move on after losing someone. But, always remember that there is still someone out there who cares for you. The loss may be painful but time can heal everything and if you help yourself, happiness will come to you.

Seeking Help for Sexual Problems

No matter how liberated and open-minded the world has become, sex and other topics that deal with sex will always be taboo, especially in some cultures. There is just something about sex that makes people cringe, no matter how scientific the topic is.

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Sex is a natural process that people do, and it is something that everyone engage in at one point in their lives. Just like sex, having sexual problems is also natural, is something that we shouldn’t be ashamed of.

Some sexual problems include losing interest in sex, premature ejaculation, impotence, experiencing pain during intercourse, and other difficulties. Some people opt to disregard these problems, causing them to feel bad about having sex, or making them lose interest all together.

There are different factors that cause these problems. Some may be physical, like an illness, an infection, or a side effect of medications. Some illnesses like diabetes, heart problems, kidney or liver problems, and even alcoholism may affect a person’s sexual desire and function.

Some factors may also be psychological, like work-related stress or anxiety. Some even feel insecure about sexual performance, or some are having problems in their marital affairs. Guilt and trauma can also cause sexual problems.

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Just like other conditions, sexual problems can be managed, and there are different kinds of medications that a person can take to manage his or her condition. Sexual problems like impotence or premature ejaculation not only affects performance, but it can also affect a person’s ability to bear a child. If you have this problem, then you should seek for help.

Psychologists and psychiatrists can also help people dealing with sexual problems, especially if the problem is caused by psychological factors. Your doctor can help you deal with stress, anxiety, trauma or guilt, and talking to professionals can help you deal with your problem.

Simple lifestyle changes can also help people who have sexual problems. Obesity and being overweight can also affect a person’s sexual desire and performance, and simple exercises like jogging, walking or cycling can go a long way in helping a person manage not only his weight but his sexual problems as well. Eating healthy food can help, as well as trying out natural aphrodisiacs, especially if a person is losing interest in sex.

Constant communication with your partner can also help. Sometimes, a person loses interest in sex because of his or her partner. For this kind of problem, communication and talking about the problem can help. Your partner should understand your needs, and working on the problem together is the best way to cope with your condition.

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Before taking any form of medication, make sure to consult your doctor so you’ll know the possible risks and side effects of the medicine that you are taking. It is also better to undergo a complete check up before taking any medication so you’re sure that it won’t make your condition worse. Don’t hesitate to seek professional help. Besides, it’s better to be safe than sorry, especially when dealing with your body.